Hello, happy happy new year to you all. I’m glad we made it. I wish you the very best of the year. Thank you for visiting this blog last year. I appreciate you all. Let’s do it again this year. There’s so much to say but this insightful piece sent in by Feyi says it all for me. So please read also share your thoughts and reminders with us. Much love.
2014:14 Things to Remember by Feyikemi
Hi friends! Yayyyy!!!! We made it into the year 2014 and I’m so thankful to God for our lives. And so, allow me to wish you a very happy new year from this side of heaven. It’s another chance our ever gracious God has given us to make progress in fulfilling His plan and purpose for our lives. I’ve taken the liberty of putting together a few tips (or, as I call them, reminders) for us to hold onto as we go on in the year. It’s so easy to forget that these things matter but this year, I want to remember. They are a representation of the things I intend to do with my year and I want us to be partners, so you can encourage me as I encourage you. Then, at the end of the year, we can all look back with sweet satisfaction and fulfillment, and look forward with hope and courage. Having done this very short introduction, here goes….
1. IT’S A NEW YEAR.
I’m not trying to state the obvious, I’m laying emphasis on the word”new”. It symbolises a new beginning. Yes, we all know the newness may be more symbolic than real…but then, life is what you choose to make of it and if you choose to see this as a new beginning, then that’s exactly what it’s gonna be for you. You need to forget the past – we’ve all made mistakes and we’ve all left important things undone, so it’s no use beating yourself over the head about all the “what ifs”and “if onlys” in 2013. You can’t go back and change them. Drop them and focus on how you can make 2014 better. Trust me, with God, it can only get better.
2. TRY SOMETHING NEW.
Step out of your comfort zone. Do something wild and totally out of character(but still godly though *wink*). Have fun. Let go of unnecessary inhibitions. (I’m definitely addressing myself here) It could be as simple as trying that new dish(cooking or eating) or as fun as going hang gliding (okay, maybe not)Whatever it is that catches your fancy, don’t let this year end without having a new experience. You deserve it.
3. JUST DO IT.
Nope, I’m not advertising for the footwear company, I’m telling you to get that book started, get that business idea out there, set that dream in motion. There’s that small thought that’s been niggling your mind for a long time now and urging you to do that thing you’ve always had your sights set on. Stop procrastinating, stop making excuses, stop discouraging yourself, (and stop listening to the discouragement of others who are “dreamless”) At least, take the first step. Let 2014 be the year. Trust me, you can do it.
4. CUT THE DISTRACTIONS.
Okay, so we successfully figured out that one major thing that you would love to achieve in this year which would make you the happiest person on earth…..but you know you need more focus,right? So why not determine to do away with (or at least reduce) those enjoyable but totally irrelevant activities that take up so much of your time?? For me, I would love to complete at least one, maybe two (fingers crossed) articles for publication in academic journals(I’ve searched and searched to discover my passion and academics seems to be it.)So, anyway, I know I need to cut back on television time (yeah!)as well as some other things as the year goes on in order to achieve this aim. You could do the same, identify your major source of distraction and work on getting rid of it. Sincerely, it pays off.
5. MAKE SOMEONE HAPPY.
It’s not just about the cliche “it’s more blessed to give than to receive”….okay, it is. The truth is, it’s not a cliché, it’s straight from the Bible and that makes it absolutely true. It’s not all about you. In 2014, make a decision to stop being so wrapped up in yourself, go out of your way to make a difference in someone’s life. Give your time, your energy, your money, other resources …..give of yourself to your family, friends, people who can never pay you back…it’s fulfilling and the rewards are enormous. Believe it, you’ll be glad you did.
Having a fulfilling year is beyond making resolutions. You need to figure out how to carry out those resolutions. I don’t need to go on and on about what resolutions should look like- realistic,specific and all that. I’m sure a good number of us have been making resolutions, year in, year out without having anything to show for it at the end of the year. It’s been the same with me, but this year, it’s going to be different. Each resolution has a detailed plan of how it will be carried out, that makes it easier to stick with. You might want to try it out and let me know if it works for you. Periodic reviews would also go a long way in helping us keep our resolutions.
7. PICK YOURSELF UP.
Closely related to strategising is the fact that you need to forgive yourself when you make mistakes. Things may not always work out according to your plans and you may get frustrated with yourself…..don’t be too hard on yourself. The trick is if you fall six times, be sure to get up seven times.
8. VALUE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS.
Let the people in your life know how much they mean to you. Don’t just think it, show it . Whether you like it or not, you are privileged to have those people in your life. In 2014, remember to act more like it. Show appreciation to your family, friends and acquaintances; be there when they need you, get in touch from time to time, show concern if anything goes wrong, don’t take them for granted….Your relationships are a major determinant of how far you will go in life. Trust me, you can’t afford to be careless with them.
9. UNCLUTTER YOUR LIFE.
As a sort of corollary to valuing your relationships, remember to let go of those relationships that are not adding any value whatsoever to your life. We know them, those people just drain your emotions and you really have no business holding on to them . Forget sentiments, let’s face facts-they need to go! Let emotional baggage go, drop the hurts and pains as well. In the same vein, refuse physical clutter in your life in 2014. Those clothes, shoes, and other items you’re just holding on to for no reason, either bless someone with them or throw them out.
Create room for God to bless you with more.
10. FACE YOUR FEARS!
In the year 2013, I found myself compelled to do a number of things that have always terrified me, in theory…but I found myself in circumstances where I had no option…and…surprise!surprise! I discovered that fear has no substance except that which you give to it. The more you avoid the object of your fear, the greater power you give to it. I was able to do those things almost effortlessly…and now, I would gladly do them over and over again. Make 2014 the year you seize power from your fears, by confronting them head on. Trust me,it’s worth it.
11. KEEP YOUR PROMISES.
Personally, I try to avoid making promises…but then, there are some totally unavoidable situations. Anyway, the point is this, in 2014, let your word be your bond. By making and keeping your resolves and promises, you get self-respect and win influence with others. However, never make a promise you will not keep. You can be very selective about the promises you make because you know yourself well. Our ability to make and keep promises is one measure of faith in ourselves and of our integrity.
12. ONLY YOUR BEST IS GOOD ENOUGH.
Excellence is a virtue. Don’t settle for less. Don’t make excuses for doing less than your best in 2014. Whatever you’re involved in, give it your best shot. Academics, Business, Career…whatever it is, pour yourself into it. Passion mixed with dedication and commitment is a potent combination that opens doors and sets you on the path of fantastic success.
Whatever life throws at you in 2014, remember to smile. Your smile is like a rainbow in the clouds, it gives you the assurance that everything is going to be okay . Be warm, be open, be friendly, be courteous, be beautiful……your smile actually conveys all of these things so don’t be without it in 2014.
14. PUT GOD FIRST.
As we all know, (or should know), this is the most important point of all, which is why I don’t feel guilty writing it here and not as the first point .It goes without saying that in order to make any sense out of the year 2014 at all, God must be the main factor in the equation. Don’t take God for granted in 2014. Consciously take your relationship to the next level, deliberately put Him first in every single thing you do. You can count on Him for wisdom, direction, provision and whatever else you need to get through the year. Trust me, you can trust Him.
So I eventually made it to 14! Wow!Maybe I’ll write 15 next year….or maybe not.Wishing us all a glorious year filled with amazing experiences. I would love to hear about those experiences, I know it’s going to be a great year. Till next time, ciao.
Feyikemi Adagunodo is a a Lawyer and aspiring writer. You can send her a mail at firstname.lastname@example.org